A Dominant's Advice To His Submissive

Do not assume that I am infallible. I am only human. I make mistakes, I lose my temper and I sometimes I do express myself inappropriately.

Do not think less of me because I am willing to apologize when I make a mistake. It is not beneath me to admit when I am wrong and it is not beyond you to accept my apology with grace and warmth. I will appreciate your acceptance and it will bolster my confidence infinitely.

Do not attempt to thwart me too often, or undermine me. At best, you will chip away at my trust and respect for you. At worst, you may just get what you wished for – to be allowed to do as you wish without my interference – permanently.

Do not forget that even Dominants get sick. You may have to fend for yourself, you may have less attention than usual and you may have to see me vulnerable, but at these times more than any other, I will be grateful for your care and devotion.

Do not be afraid to confide in me. I am here to support, guide and protect you but I cannot do that unless you give me the information that I need to do so.

Do not try to justify your bad behaviour. When you have made a mistake, admit it in your own mind, own up to it and accept that you have to work on correcting it as well as accepting gracefully your punishment.

Do not act out to get my attention. You already have it, even when you think that you do not. That said if you are feeling neglected, talk to me respectfully and without condemnation. Let me know how I can make you feel better.

Do not forget that even a Dominant has worries, fears and insecurities because that same Dominant is the one who pushes the majority of his/her own aside in order to guide and support you through your own.

Do not forget that I am learning alongside you. Have patience and understanding. No Dominant will ever be perfect because Dominant’s by their very nature endeavour to learn and develop until their last breath.

Do not ever lose that special spark that makes you, you. It ignites my inner fire and fuels my passion for you. It is why I chose you.