Aspects of Control

So here’s a short list of ways I see myself asserting control in a Dom/sub kind of relationship with my Past Lady Subs9/ (in an ideal setting). This list isn’t numbered in any particular order.

1. Reading

Not like in a “you can only read books for children” kind of way, but in like. “I want you to read this book. Get to chapter x by Friday so we can discuss it over dinner.” Intellectual non-fiction, classic fiction, fun fiction… But stuff that challenges and makes her think or feel. Something that can be used to spur discussion about whether it’s right or wrong.

2. Eating out

I really don’t want to be in charge of someone’s complete diet. But in terms of eating out, I find the idea of outright ordering the meal for her to be quite appealing.

3. Outfits

When we’re going out somewhere, or going to be together for the day, I want to pick out how she’ll look. What she’ll wear for me that appeals, so I can show her off and so I can be enjoy the sight of her myself.

4. Standard household tasks

I find the idea of waking up and my clothes having been laid out the night before to be relaxing and nice. And it’s something I’m currently working into my routine. But it’s something I would like to see her take over. I tell her what I want to wear and she makes sure everything is neatly taken care of and arranged.

5. Money

This is kind of a big thing for me, actually. For a partnership to work, I believe in pooled financial resources and then having one person making the financial decisions and administration. Even if both are working and pulling in decent incomes and you could essentially just “bill” the other person for their half of things like a roommate… I would want to manage all the finances coming in and out, and budgeting out what she can spend. And yes she would get a monthly allowance (generous but not unlimited) after all other expenses were accounted for. And sometimes I might give her extra and tell her to go buy a nice dress or something like that, but essentially I want to have that financial control.

I’m not sure I can think of anymore off the top of my head. Anyone have some things they’d like to add?