Characteristics of a good Daddy

Awhile ago someone asked me what I thought the characteristics of a good Daddy were and I didn’t answer at the time, so I’m going to answer it now (:

I believe that above all, a good Daddy must truly care about their Little, beyond a sexual level. They must care about the well being, the happiness, the safety, the comfort, and the pleasure of their submissive in all aspects. I’m a 24/7 Little with a 24/7 Daddy, so my opinion on this may differ from those who only participate in their D/s relationship in the bedroom. Lucky for me, my Daddy is absolutely perfect. He doesn’t just think of himself, in fact, he puts my well before himself. His most prominent concern is whether or not I feel okay, safe, cared for, and happy. 

The second most important characteristic is that a Daddy, like any Dom, rules with a firm hand. He must be ready to punish and discipline when his Little does something wrong, but not “just because” or for his own enjoyment. Punishments should only be given in order to improve the relationship, and rules should be created prior, so there’s a set list of guidelines that have been agreed upon. That way, nothing will seem “unfair” or confusing. Daddies must follow through with these rules and punishments for the well being of the relationship, to maintain the dynamics, and to give a sense of security to the Little*.

A good Daddy must also be understanding. My Daddy knows that some days his Little girl might not be able to handle what she could the day before, or might not feel up to the same things, and he always understands and never makes me feel bad about anything. A big part of age play is being able to be confident in oneself and comfortable around their partner, enough to be able to completely fall into the role of being either a Daddy or Little. The more understanding and kind a Daddy is, the easier it is for their Little to be comfortable and confident around them. He must also respect and understand any usage of safe words- that’s VERY important!

Age play isn’t just an “act” my Daddy and I put on for sexual enjoyment. This is the way our dynamics have been since we first began developing our relationship. They’re the roles we naturally fall into, and we’ve found that it’s what makes both of us optimally happy fulfilled. Age play shouldn’t be forced and should be on an emotional level.

A good Daddy has a firm hand and soft heart.