Daddy Up!

The following was written by me as an answer to a question I received.  Several have requested I post it as a regular post.  So here it is…

What should a Daddy do to help his little girl overcome her fear of vulnerability?  The two most important things a Daddy can do to help his little girl get over her fear are:

1.) Trust.  As a Daddy you must establish trust with your little girl.  If she can’t trust you, she will always be in fear of being vulnerable and the possibility of being hurt.  I wrote something very early on in my blog, and I think it is worth repeating here:  

While a Daddy can encourage, strengthen and nurture every good thing a little girl is.  He can also just as easily damage and injure it. The broken trust of a Daddy/little girl relationship creates a wound that is slow and painful to heal.

2.)  Dedication.  A Daddy must be dedicated to his little girl and dedicated to being a Daddy, particularly her Daddy.  Your little girl must become the most important thing in your life.  If you are not dedicated to being a Daddy, then stop the charade.  You are only going to end up causing her hurt and sorrow.  And that is unacceptable.

Over the years of being a Daddy, I have talked to many people about this lifestyle (both Daddies and little girls).  And a serious problem I have found that many Daddy/little girl relationships seem to struggle with is the “Daddy” in the relationship doesn’t make for enough time to be a Daddy.  I understand career and life (I too have a career and a life) can sometimes get in the way.  But I have too many times, heard of a Daddy not only not seeing his little girl for long periods of time, but also not even communicating with her for long periods of time. I couldn’t imagine not talking to my little girl (in the past or my future little girl) for several days at a time.  I understand Daddies work hard (I do as well), but time must be made.  Not only to strengthen the relationship, but also to guide and protect your little girl. How could a Daddy not know what is going on in his little girl's life for several days in a row?  How do you know she is safe?  And I’ve heard all the excuses…”my job takes up all my time”, “I am busy and occupied with other things”, “When I am in ‘work mode’ my mind is in a different place”, etc., etc. (fill in your own excuse here) 

Well my reply to these “excuses” and “reasons” are DADDY UP…MOTHER FUCKER (excuse my naughty language, little ones)

If you call yourself a Daddy and expect someone not only to call you Daddy but also give you the respect, adoration, obedience to, and love that a true Daddy not only deserves but also demands, then it’s time to act like one!  With the respect, adoration, obedience to, and love that a little girl gives you, you have a responsibility and obligation to meet certain responsibilities.  And if you don’t even have the time to have a 10 minute phone conversation with your little girl, then may I be so bold as to say you are not deserving of the title “Daddy” or anything else that comes with having such a title.  While being a Daddy has many rewards, it’s not always easy and if you are not up to the challenge or not capable of meeting those challenges head on, then please, stop calling yourself a Daddy.

I could write more on this subject, but this is far too long already and I wish not to bore anyone with more of my thoughts.  The title "Daddy" is earned, So fucking Earn it.