Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship

1. Make the effort to stay in touch – Text, call or skype every day, if you can. It’s important to be part of each other’s daily life. Also, send each other letters, thoughtful cards and little gifts to show the other person that they’re always on your mind. That helps to keep the fires and romance alive.

2. Be open and discuss what the boundaries will be if you’re going to be living far away from each other. For example, will the relationship be casual or it is serious? Is it going to be exclusive or is it non-exclusive? What are your short and your long term goals – and how will these impact the relationship?

3. Despite the fact you’re miles apart, get creative and find things that you can do together. For example, you could see the same movie then discuss it on the phone; or, you could read the same book, or join an online group. Also, give your partner something that reminds them of you so you’re always there is spirit – even when you’re miles apart.

4. Recognise the benefits of living your own life and pursuing your own interests, and doing things you love. Enjoy being with your friends, and having time to yourself, and following your passion, and finding your true self.     

5. Don’t try to control the relationship. At the end of the day, it all comes down to trust - and choosing to be loyal and committed to each other. Also, being jealous and suspicious usually wreaks relationships. Don’t interrogate your partner or monitor their moves.

6. Try to visit each other as often as you can. Figure out how this can happen, how often, where, and when.

7. Remember that you’re still in a relationship. You could have gone your separate ways - but you both want to be a couple!