How to Find a Submissive

There are lots of posts out there about how to find a Dom/Daddy/Sir/Master/Mistress etc but there are not many out there on how to find a sub. Believe it or not, it isn’t that different!

If you are looking for a partner in the kink community, you have a few options!

You can join websites such as fetlife.com or ddlgforum.com and the sorts.

I really do suggest using fetlife in order to find communities, kink rings, and local events (and hopefully local kinksters!). Go on fetlife (it’s free!), create an account, update your profile, and begin looking for information on your local community.

Another option is Tinychat! There are mixers every Wed night (for singles and couples where single submissives normally out number single Doms) There are also a few tinychats that happen every day. Coming into tinychat helps build a community as well as meet new people (and eligible possible partners!)

On the same token of creating or joining a community, you might want to consider finding a mentor. Your mentor can help you find a submissive that is right for you (and her/him) and help guide you with any questions or concerns you may have!

I am not really involved in a kink community outside of the internet even though quite a few of my friends know about my kinks. I will post more information that I find on the internet about local communities as they come up.

Please remember, though, that submissives (and Doms) are human first. First focus on a friendly relationship, then romantic, then kink (start vanilla and work your way up). It is also important to remember to put yourself out there! No one can know your needs if you don’t let them show!!!