LDR Contemplation: Sticking with plans

It’s something that I finally realized as a major problem Long distance relationship couples (LDR) face as “discrimination” from the outside world that includes family and friends is the concept of LDR couples having plans and spending time with each other.

I use the word “discrimination” because in many cases even though an LDR is acknowledged as a “real” relationship, there is always that feeling that LDR plans can be treated as secondary to “real life” plans. Some friends can be good about it no doubt, but then there is almost always that odd friend or family member who just takes it for granted that a person in an LDR can’t possibly have a specific plan or routine to spend time with their SO. 

It’s not something you can easily overcome, but it’s also not something that should be left unacknowledged. I wouldn’t be surprised if individuals within the relationship themselves tend to overlook the importance of making plans and going through with them. I personally don’t think that LDR plans ought to be any more fluid or flexible as real life plans and/or treated any differently. 

My advice is to think about it this way. Treat and think of LDR plans to talk, spend time together the exact same way you would treat a plan with a significant other in real life.

I think this is an inherent weakness of an LDR but it can be overcome with recognition and communication.