Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind

Never underestimate the power of a hug.

They’re like magical bandaids with arms…that don’t hurt when you pull them off (ie. stop hugging).  Now, I’m not a hugger; and generally, I prefer it if people refrain from latching onto me. But with my Daddy, it’s like all of a sudden, I’ve turned into Velcro Girl. And I will touch you whenever I can. Hugging just seems to be is the easiest way to do it.

Plus, it’s okay in pretty much any forum, so I’m not going to garner “weird brow, squinty eye” looks from people. ‘Cause it’s not as if they’re going to know I wanna do so much more than hug you…

Give us freedom, but also know when to take charge.

The thing that is so magical and amazing about finding your Daddy, is the freedom it gives you. Now, that might sound contradictory, because for many a Daddy/girl relationship is a D/s relationship. But I guess, this is what I mean when I say “know when to take charge”. It’s relaxing to have decisions taken away from you, even if it’s as simple as having them decide what you should eat…because I am way too indecisive for my own good and after a while, it makes me irritated with myself and weirdly anxious. And having these pesky decisions made for you and for your own good and wellbeing, it’s surprisingly freeing.

But freedom goes beyond that. It’s so much more than that. Finding your Daddy feels akin to finding this hidden confidence and acceptance inside yourself that lets you be you. You don’t have to curb anything, because a good Daddy—the right Daddy—will welcome your honesty. He’ll like all those little (or big) quirks you have. And what’s more, he’ll nurture them.

Understand the power of words.

Or even just a word.

I feel that submissives are, on the whole, more sensitive than the ordinary person. This isn’t to say that other people, including Dominants, don’t “feel”; I’m merely saying that submissive people seem to be more receptive and sensitive. We’re like beacons for anything remotely emotional—which is like everything!

Most of what goes into that conclusion is what I’ve learned from comparing myself to others—a big no-no, right? But I’ve always seen the differences between myself and others, particularly the negative effects. In high school, if I was admonished by a teacher, I’d feel it more strongly than my peers, and so much so that I’d be upset and embarrassed about it for days, despite never telling anyone so. (Now that’s just one example, but there have been many instances where I could acknowledge my reaction was deeper than others, or even to the point that the fact that I reacted at all was the only difference).

Anyway, what I’m trying to say, but instead end up rambling on (oh god, I’m becoming my mother!), is that submissives, and perhaps especially little girls, are particularly sensitive to your words and how you choose to say them. So know what you’re saying when you say something to your little. Know that expressing your disappointment is generally like drop-kicking your little—so use it wisely and use it well.

Also, understand what the power of telling your little that they’ve been a “good girl” can hold, because man!  that makes me just about melt.