Your Rights As A Submissive - DONE

You have chosen the role of a submissive, choosing to surrender yourself to a Dominant, giving yourself and all you are to that Person completely and with no reservations. The Dominant will control every aspect of your Second Life to whatever degree He or She chooses, and you will accept that without reservation, reveling in the love and security given you as a result of it.

But what rights will you retain for yourself? The idea of a good submissive having no limits or rights is a silly and dangerous concept. If that were true, then a submissive would receive no benefit from the relationship, have no satisfaction in her or his service to the Dominant, and would soon simply stop coming to Second Life. As a submissive you are entitled to receive something in return for your submission to your Dominant, to have true satisfaction in the relationship, and to retain certain rights that the Dominant will respect without even thinking about it. These rights should not be negotiated at the beginning of the relationship as are limits and the amount of time spent together online, rather they must be understood by both the Dominant and the submissive as an integral part of the relationship, and they must never be violated or dismissed without very careful consideration and good reason.

Those rights are as follows:

One – you have the right to set limits on what can be done with and to you, both physically and psychologically, and, while your limits may be tested and stretched, they must never be violated;

Two – you have the right to be given the opportunity to demonstrate that you can be trusted, and to be trusted when you have done so;

Three – you have the right, outside of rp, to be treated as an intelligent and caring person by the Dominant;

Four – you have the right, within reasonable bounds, to have the Dominant’s attention, without having to break rules and misbehave in order to have it;

Five – you have the right to expect aftercare when a scene is finished, and for the Dominant to show you tenderness, understanding, and love for what you have just given;

Six – you have the right to have an opinion about things, and, within limitations, to voice those opinions to the Dominant, knowing that the Dominant will consider those opinions while retaining the final say in all matters;

Seven – you have the right to tell the Dominant you are sad for some reason and that you need Him or Her to just hold you and be tender for a while;

Eight – you have the right to expect the Dominant to realize that the relationship you share brings with it a deep and passionate love, and to not reject you if you tell Him or Her how you feel;

Nine – you have the right to be taught those things the Dominant wants you to know, and to expect the Dominant to be patient with you as you learn them;

Ten – you have the right to expect the Dominant to administer any and all punishments in a consistent and careful manner, never being impulsive or unpredictable in the rules;

Eleven – you have the right to communicate to the Dominant what your needs are, and to have those needs fulfilled as much as is possible;

Twelve – you have the right to question the Dominant’s motivations and feelings if your requests seem to be consistently or unfairly denied you;

Thirteen – you have the right to tell the Dominant if you feel your relationship is not giving you the things you need from it, and to have the Dominant listen to you and discuss your needs compassionately;

Fourteen – you have the right to expect the Dominant to tell you if the relationship is not what He or She needs, and to give you the opportunity to discuss it in order to correct the problems;

Fifteen – you have the right to walk away from a relationship with a Dominant if there are issues which cannot be resolved.

Will every Dominant agree to these rights? They should; there is nothing in them that denies any of their privileges, nothing that takes away from the power held over you. On the contrary, these rights help to insure a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. To ignore any of them only will only bring pain and unhappiness to both of you.

A submissive is not a doormat, she or he is a person with feelings and desires, and if those are not met, then the submissive must look elsewhere. Any Dominant who does not understand this will never know the satisfaction of a truly loving submissive.